How to Request Feedback That Enhances Your Writing Skills
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Chapter 1: Understanding the Feedback Process
When someone shares their article or book draft with you, they often seek your insights. This scenario can create a challenging situation for both parties.
If your critique is too harsh, it could jeopardize the relationship. Conversely, if you don't know how they will react to feedback, their response may catch you off guard. You want to be constructive and provide actionable advice, yet the task can be quite delicate.
Imagine being in their position. What would you want to know before reaching out to a friend or editor for feedback?
Section 1.1: Identifying the Right Person for Feedback
Understanding the feedback style of the person you approach can greatly influence how you receive their insights. Knowing their approach helps you prepare for the type of feedback you might receive.
For instance, if they are straightforward, expect candid feedback. However, if they tend to be reserved, their comments may be more tentative and may require further probing to grasp fully. Engage in a dialogue to uncover deeper insights into their feedback.
Your level of respect for the individual also plays a crucial role in how you perceive their comments. Valuing their perspective allows you to appreciate their input, even if it includes criticism.
Sometimes, feedback can feel like a generous gift, while other times, it may feel like a personal attack.
Subsection 1.1.1: Managing Your Emotional Responses
It's beneficial to have a resilient mindset. If you typically brush off criticism, negative feedback may not affect you as deeply. However, if you are sensitive to suggestions, it might be challenging to hear their observations.
After investing significant effort into your writing, it can be difficult to let others evaluate your work. Remember, the critique focuses on your writing, not your personal worth.
Recognize that everyone has emotional triggers that can complicate how we respond to feedback. Three key triggers include:
- Truth Trigger: Your immediate response may be to dismiss their suggestions as unworkable.
- Relationship Trigger: Your feelings toward the individual providing feedback can cloud your judgment; you might react more to the person than the message.
- Identity Trigger: Feedback that challenges your self-image or identity can provoke a strong emotional reaction.
Understanding these triggers can help you manage your responses more effectively.
Section 1.2: Clarity in Your Requests
Articulating the type of feedback you seek can streamline the conversation. One useful framework for requesting feedback is the ACE model, which stands for Appreciation, Coaching, and Evaluation.
When you specify your needs, it helps the person understand what kind of feedback you're looking for.