Fight the Fear of Assisting Others: Embrace Involvement
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Understanding Two Common Challenges
We often encounter two closely related dilemmas in life:
- We hesitate to seek assistance when we need it.
- We are reluctant to offer help to those in need.
Both of these behaviors can lead to negative outcomes. We may worry about imposing our issues on others, and conversely, we might not go out of our way to support someone else. Given how hectic life can be, it’s easy to question the need for additional complexity.
A profound quote from Marina Keegan resonates deeply:
“I worry sometimes that humans are afraid of helping humans. There’s less risk associated with animals, less fear of failure, fear of getting too involved.”
We frequently find ourselves more willing to help animals than fellow humans. As Keegan points out, aiding an animal feels less risky—once the deed is done, we can move on. However, assisting a person often involves deeper commitment and potential complications.
Yes, it can disrupt your plans. But when you reflect on the situation, what holds more significance? Would you regret not finishing a task, or would you feel remorse for not extending a helping hand to someone in distress?
The Need to Support the Vulnerable
I was fortunate to grow up in a nurturing environment where I could rely on my family during tough times. Unfortunately, not everyone has this privilege. Having a reliable support network is a true blessing that not all individuals experience.
When we observe someone in distress, we might assume that they have someone in their life who can help them navigate their struggles. But what if that assumption is incorrect? What if that individual is yearning for your assistance? How much suffering should one endure before we decide to intervene?
In those moments of doubt, we must take action. Resist the urge to be an onlooker. Be the person who offers support when others claim they are “too busy.” Strive to be the one that others can count on during their most challenging times. Ultimately, that’s how you will be remembered.
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